Your relationship with authority shapes you as a leader.
STAGE ONE: TRUST AUTHORITY
- You are in charge, so obviously you must know what you are doing.
- You say that you are really good at this and know exactly what needs to be done and I believe you.
- You know how to do things that I can’t do yet, so I will follow you.
- You say I have to do this, so I will do it.
STAGE TWO: BLAME AUTHORITY
- You said everything would work out and it didn’t and now I hate you.
- There are loads of messed up things about the organization/business you are in charge of and you make my life hard. I am disgusted.
- I found out that you are a flawed (human) being and I resent you for it.
- I find something new to complain about every day because there are so many little things wrong with your system.
STAGE THREE: REJECT AUTHORITY
- I want nothing to do with you or any organization you belong to ever again. I’m 100% out.
STAGE FOUR: GO IT ALONE
- I’ll build my own thing.
- I’ll teach myself everything I need to know.
- I’ll show them. I’ll show you all.
STAGE FIVE: FORGIVE AND CO-CREATE
- Partners make so many things work better. Collaboration speeds up achievement. And I like to have friends and mentors in the professional space.
- I will choose partners and mentors carefully and do not expect them to be perfect, but I will expect them to be transparent and fair.
- I want to work with others as a leader and/or as a follower. I care more that the work gets done and gets done well so we can help more people.
- I’m not afraid to question leaders, and I do it with compassion, assuming they are trying their hardest too. I ask them directly and don’t gossip about it.
- I’m ready to not only put some skin in the game, but to do it with compassion and joy in helping others.
What stage of authority are you in — in your most beloved projects and pursuits?
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